If ever there was a subject as painful as nail, cheating by all account is it.
As I was researching material for an article I have been asked to write, I stumbled upon this old song.
It’s an oldie, in French, but so stirring that I felt compelled to share it with you…
The song talks about the cheating of a father who left a mother to live a new life with a woman much younger than his wife.
It is sung by a daughter who has felt the destructive effect of her father’s actions and who begs him to return to her mom!
Viens, viens c’est une priere…
Viens, viens, pas pour moi mon pere..
Viens, viens, reviens pour ma mere…
Viens, viens, elle meurt de toi…
Whether you speak French of not, I am sure you will be touched by the passion of the singer and the nature of her prayer…
Come back my father, not for me but for my mother…
There are many stirring passages in this song, but none so moving then the following words:
Je ne suis pas venue te juger, mais pour te ramener…….
(I didn’t come to judge you, but to bring you back…)
Cheating… Don’t do it!
Cheating may seem so ‘harmless’ in the moment. The irony is that it seems to be almost held up as normal in Hollywood and on the soaps, yet media never portrays the devastation, regret, and heartache that come with cheating. It’s refreshing to see and hear a song that matches reality.
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Cheating is definitely a no-no in a relationship. It will create too much complications on both parties and trust will be at stake which is very important to make the relationship lasts.
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Thank you for sharing this. I hope adultery will end to stop divorce.
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I agree with that Ira cheating in relationship was not really good, because if you really love your partner you dont need to cheat, but if you dont love her/him you can do that..
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Dr. Dad Reply:
November 18th, 2011 at 2:59 pm
So you are saying that it’s ok to cheat, as long as you are not in love?
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Hello Dr Dad,
I wish I knew what she was really saying. Yes, I sense her passion. There is always hope for a “loveless” marriage that compels one to cheat. But both parties must be willing to seek counsel and to want to make it work. The cheater must be open to finding out what it is that tempts them to go in the direction of cheating. The un-cheater should be open to see if they are rejecting or pushing away their partner. There is hope for a troubled marriage, but each has to want it to work.
Committed,
Lynn
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Dr. Dad Reply:
November 20th, 2011 at 2:30 pm
Hi Lynn, yes counseling can be helpful IF the conditions are right. One of them being finding the right counselor. In the case of this song, the father goes away with a woman half his age. In doing so, he not only cheats on his wife but dismisses the year upon year during which she made him the center of her life, loved him … I would take a special kind of woman to take such a man back. I am not sure I could do it… if I was her.
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Yes Stevie that is a well known old song here in France, the post caught my email because of it! Good share – I enjoyed the post
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Dr. Dad Reply:
November 22nd, 2011 at 9:46 pm
Yes I know! I lived there amongst other places.
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I never understood how the “oops it just happened” excuse ever even began to be accepted. Look, there is temptation in the world for both committed men and women. Just keep it in your pants and appreciate what you have. My wife means the world to me. To cheat on her would devastate both of us.
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Dr. Dad Reply:
November 23rd, 2011 at 9:23 am
Best comment of the week!
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Wow! this is a beautiful song and post. I never heard this song before. My mom had a lot of French music when I was growing up. This lady has such a passionate voice and the lyrics are really touching as they are in the point of view of a little girl wanting her father to come home and see hoe beautiful her mommy is… It’s clearly a story which is happening far too much as couples sadlygive up on love too easily. Great share Stevie..Thanks!
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Dr. Dad Reply:
November 24th, 2011 at 3:29 pm
Thank you Nathalie. Yes, the singer has a beautiful voice but above all very strong messages. She is one of my old time favorites!
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This is really an eye opener. Thanks for sharing this.
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Cheating is the painfulness of the ass
If you really love you’re partner i think you don’t need to cheat, do as you can in a good way.
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Dr. Dad Reply:
December 3rd, 2011 at 4:48 pm
Painfulness of the what?
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Dr. Dad Reply:
February 6th, 2012 at 1:57 pm
Well, thank you!
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Great post, Stevie! I just do not understand why someone would cheat on someone that he/she pledged love to. It seems like there are far too many times in society when people think only about themselves and instant gratification, but never about the people around them or the relationships that they have built. I don’t think that thinking long term will eliminate infidelity, but I think it would certainly reduce it. Also, it is important to remember never to blame the victim. (I can’t tell you how frustrating it is to read books or accounts where people talk about the distance or the withholding as if that excuses everything. Well, it does not.)
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