Catch Him And Keep Him

In this article, I will go over some of the mistakes which according to the author himself get some women to miss out on making the love life of their dreams a reality.

And if you happen to recognize that you, as a woman are making some of these mistakes, then you might very well find the secret to your own happiness… By knowing what these mistakes are and by taking the appropriate steps to avoid making them again!

Mistake 1: Don’t think potential is all that it takes!

If you think about it, this point is as obvious as anything else. This idea some women have that a man with potential can be saved… That with a lot of love and even more effort, all men can eventually be liberated from within their shell and achieve the potential that women see in them.

Christian Carter this perception is caused by what he calls the “GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION” which is the sum total of how women feel about a man they are attracted to. In other words, the determination they make on a worthiness of a mate is not entirely based on how “nice” or how “good” a man can be in the course of their life together but rather on an instinctual mechanism, deeply rooted in female psyche. The willingness to heal, make good, transform, improve.

The end result is as we all know from one example or another in our life is that for a lot of these women, the salvage operation they have undertaken rarely produces the expected results and at the end of the day, the men they select for themselves continue to falter, deceive and more importantly mistreat them.

It is definitely a case of mistaken identity, or more precisely, women can be guilty of confusing attraction for connection! And when that happens, the result often times lead to failed relationships in which these women are treated badly by the men they have selected for themselves. This pattern of repeated behavior can even stretch over a period of years during which women live with the “wrong” guy.

According to Christian Carter, he came to this realization having having seen this pattern of behavior from women “a least a hundred times!” And because he admits to having been one of these men, to having been selfish and without much to offer.

I am amazed the women put up with me. But they did… all the while hoping that I would somehow change. The women I dated hoped I’d change.

In other words, women who dated Mr. Carter, earlier on at least, saw potential even though nothing in his behavior indicated that there was much there that he would have been willing to have changed.

Women who are like that believe with their heart that a man can become someone else, that they can realize their potential and all it takes is a woman who really loves them.

The truth is that this is not the type of battle a lot of women can win.

It may be difficult for some women to even accept that they are “guilty” of this, but until they do accept this fact, until they realize that they are behaving with men in that fashion, they’ll not likely have the success with men they want and deserve.

Mistake 2: Women assume that they “Get” their men and their Psychology.

If this sounds familiar to you, then you need to realize that men are different from women and that in spite of your natural female ability to be empathic, women don’t always Get their men. In fact it is rare that they do, particularly at the beginning of a relationship. This is how Christian Carter explain this:

When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.

Lot’s of women don’t even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.

But does the same apply for men?

Not usually. Men are visual creatures who don’t always spend a lot time on verbal communication.

… men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”.

And it is that difference between men and women that women for all their chore perspicacity often miss.

But if men are more visual, does this automatically mean that they feel physically attracted to a woman solely based on her looks?

Not entirely, at least not according to Mr. Carter.

Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.

These other things include body language and the ability to communicate attraction which can act as a powerful physical attraction mechanism and the good news, says Mr. Carter is that this can be learned.

Mistake 3: Pretend to be something for a man you are not

It is a common mistake. At first it takes its source in the desire of women to do every thing they can to get their man to like them, be attracted to them, even fall in love with them.

If you do things which you under normal circumstances you would not do, just for the sake of pleasing man so that he may fall under your spell, then don’t!

The object here is not to act so that a man thinks you are a great catch. If you have to act a certain way in order to achieve this objective, then your efforts are doomed before they even began.

Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them. (Christian Carter)

If you do unusual things in order to get a man’s attention in the hope that he will see how great a catch you are so that he will want to be with you, then you could not be further from the truth.

Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want… EVER. (Christian Carter)

Let me make a point. No one is suggesting that you should not do what you can to be as appealing, sexy, intelligent, attractive… to your male date, but your efforts must be genuine, unselfish and more importantly timely.

Under no circumstances should you act a certain way, in order to obtain his attentions, because theses attentions are precisely not the kind that will bring you a long term relationship with a man who will be a life partner to you.

Don’t lower yourself to act “easy” just this once because you think this is the man for you and don’t think that you’re lucky to have him until he has shown you his worth. In other words, don’t elevate him into something he is certainly is not, like he is “a gift to the Earth”.

This type of behavior is known to have the opposite effect, and actually lowers your social status with a man and the way he will see you as a woman.

So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man’s fantasies” from the start, think again. You’ll never succeed by looking for a man’s approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself. (Christian Carter)

Mistake 4: Not getting help.

The above are just 3 of the most common mistakes women make which eventually prevents them from getting the love and the life they could get. The last mistake is for women to imagine that they don’t need help. And this is by far the biggest mistake of all. Unfortunately, women (and men) often think that seeking advice and asking for help is a sign of weakness. That somehow, referring to someone who might know more about a subject makes them helpless.

One thing I have learned over the years is that couples often go through life as if they had no understanding of who each one of them is. I have struggled with the realization that many women hardly understand they men they are attracted to or dating.

This is also a realization that Christian Carter has pondered over for many years, and in the course of several intensive years of discovery during which he read “hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.” he has been able to approach dating with confidence, and to understand everything that’s going on in an interaction.

The best part about his journey is that he has shared his knowledge and has been helping women become more successful with men and dating.

This journey has benefited women from all walks of life in that they were able to “get rid of that sick, insecure feeling… the one you get when you’re lonely, you’ve been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says “he’s not ready”.”

There is no need to be afraid that someone else will lie to you, cheat on you and that you’ll end up alone!

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My own thoughts on Catch Him And Keep him

The above review was based on what the author (Christian Carter) has said himself. The above claims, conclusions and observation are his. I did not write this book although I have read it. As a male reader, I must say that a lot of what Mr. Carter says about how he can help make any woman be more successful with men and dating makes sense, if only because he obviously knows a thing or two about what motivates men, and it is this knowledge that is applied in order to show women a path in which they can select their potential life partner from the rest of the male crowd.

And I agree that there are men out there whom, as a Dad, I would not want for my own daughters and if anything, his information will give women (young women) the tools they need to separate attraction from connection.

We live in a world of instant gratification and some may look at a product and expect that their life be changed immediately, as it says on the ads. The truth is that a product cannot change your life, only you can. The only thing a product can do is to give you the tools to change your life for something better and this eBook is one such tool.

This is information you can use to your advantage IMMEDIATELY in order to meet, attract, date and have a loving relationship with a great guy.

It helps create an environment where you can have an amazing relationship with the man of your dreams, the right man, and gives you the knowledge to avoid men that are wrong for you, (those men with potential), men who end manipulating you and who eventually turn your relationship into a source of pain.

You may wonder if a book can really teach a regular girl how to be more successful in the dating world?

The answer to that question, according to Christian Carter and the thousands of positive feedback he receives daily from satisfied customer is YES.

I’ll end this article with what the author has to say:

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