|If you have read some of the articles I have written already on the subject of Catch Him and Keep Him by Christian Carter, then you will have seen that:
1. I earn an affiliate commission on each sale and as such, my reviews and articles may be more biased than they would otherwise be, even if always make this obvious regarding all the products I sell on this site.
Still this blog is an attempt to put forward my views on a number of subjects relating to dating, relationship, love and so forth. And to do so honestly.
So in an effort to remain impartial, I have looked for negative feedback on Christian Carter book and I have come across a interesting article written by one Sasha Cagen of quirkyalone. Scroll down for the full address:
In this article written in 2008, Sasha Cagen makes the case against this book having as she puts it:
… gotten sucked into something that you were also ashamed to read?
And what is it that she read? Catch Him And Keep Him, the “how to catch and keep a man” proposition that kept on flooding her email in the form of ads which as she laments may be targeting women because some…
… women are more pathetic and malleable than me….
Anyway, one of the ads she found in her mail box had a link “The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes Women Make” and like most of us do eventually, she clicked on it!
This then lead her to “swim through simple, one-sentence direct-mail style paragraphs like:
Have you ever slept with a guy very quickly after meeting him, but as it started to happen you got that sinking feeling in your stomach? You knew it was a mistake, but you did it anyway. And then the thing you KNEW would happen actually happened: He unexplainably disappeared from your life. Honestly, have you ever had this happen?
Of course, the worst part wasn’t that it happened, but that you KNEW you shouldn’t have done it in the first place… but you did it anyway.
A realization which of course cannot be too uncommon and I would suspect the veracity of which one which did not need a book to emphasize.
Still, as things go, what is obvious to some may not necessarily be to others and judging by the comportment of some men and women whenever I go to a bar (which is rare) or to club (which my old hips nowadays always beg me not to indulge in too frequently), I wonder sometimes what people think when I see them behave on the dance floor. But that’s me. I am a Dad. What can I do!
So back to the subject at hand…
Christian Carter has a list of the 10 fatal mistakes most women make with men, yes you have read correctly, fatal and mistakes and proposes to teach women how they can “engage and attract a man right after they have met”.
Of course this knowledge comes at a price and the article makes a point to mention that fact, which is of course entirely appropriate.
After all, the course costs $29.97 plus a monthly charge of $19.97 (which can be cancelled) and whether Mr. Carter has indeed thought deeply about the psychology of men and women when they are dating, this is not small change for many people.
So far so good… I actually like it when you get to read the opposite side of the coin and not everything is ever as it is written on the ads, or the article…
Well except Sasha Cagen never did get her credit card out:
The sickest thing is that for a moment I even considered typing my credit card address, until I awoke from the hallucination and realized it would be hell to get him to stop charging me money. His real name is David DeAngelo, and once I had the wherewithal to do a search-binge on him, I found numerous consumer complaints from women who claimed that he wouldn’t stop charging them after they asked to unsubscribe.
Now, there are two important facts here to mention:
1. She never bought the book so her review is not entirely equitable (which is entirely appropriate as it is her article).
To the second point, I can say that in my own experience, I actually asked my wife to purchase the book, and when the monthly charge came in, it took her all of 5 minutes to have it cancelled.
But back to Sasha and her assertion about Mr. Carter:
I could see this was a psychological master who knew how to manipulate an audience. The stock trade in any self-help e-book purchase is to tap into the reader’s insecurities and promise you have the long-sought-after answer. In this case, it’s about tapping into woman’s insecurities and confusion over male behavior, with the promise of understanding of learning what’s going on behind the scenes of a man’s mind.
Tough words indeed, particularly coming from one who seemingly hasn’t read the book especially since the then proceeds to make her case by quoting some one else whom she says has been reading Mr. Carter for longer than her, and whom she tasks of doing the heavy lifting for her.
I actually enjoyed reading Sasha’s article and I thought it raised excellent points which I have included here:
1. Namely that much of every thing is about common sense, and for some, books are not at all necessary, even Cach Him And Keep Him
Of course, whilst it is true that many have been lucky to have had a path in life from which there were able to learn what was important and what wasn’t this is not the case for everyone, and there are countless men and women out there who need guidance and even dating advice.
The argument that Christian Carter “preys on women’s insecurities and then takes advantage of that by asking them for their credit card” can be made for just about every thing else women buy (or men for that matter). Dior, Coco Chanel and countless other products are marketed precisely because they offer the opportunity to be prettier, better, sexier, more attractive, better at dating, etc… and at some level all play on the insecurities of women. (The same can be said about men’s insecurities by the way!)
The author of the article makes an interesting point about the perceived assumption that men and women cannot be friends
The feeling that men and women are so irreconcilably different that we can never truly be ourselves with each other; anything that promotes this idea is just depressing. It makes me wonder if pre-industrial societies had it right when men and women didn’t expect their mates to be their best friends, and instead found companionship with same-sex friends
But whilst this view is of merit, it strays from the book and the discussion of its own merits. She then calls the book author a “bozo” because:
Because people like him have influence. He seems more powerful than the authors of the Rules, because he’s a man, and supposedly offers an inside view.
And that’s that really. One thing is sure and she makes this point very eloquently at the end of the article, I have often been amazed at how mystified men and women seem to be with one another. Should we be? Is that even true? Can women and men really be friends? Or not? What do you say?
In conclusion, I wanted to offer you the other side of the coin even if that side makes more sense as to the commercialism of our society than the actual “Catch Him And Keep Him ebook”.
As for whether you yourself should go out and buy this book, this of course is a decision that only you can make. Just so that you know, the book is sold through “Commission Junction” which is a platform used by mainstream companies, including dating companies, such as eHarmony, match.com etc… As such it offers customers a protection which should put your mind at rest.
Anyway, if you want to buy the book,
And remember! I earn a commission on each sale!
Let me know what you think!
The link to the article I have referred to is: Is it me or is Christian Carter of “Catch Him and Keep Him” the devil?
It’s very well worth a read!
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And if this subject interests you, stay tune as I will publish an article and Mr. Christian Carter Dating Tips for women ebook written by a female reader! Promises to be good!
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