He has one look, one puff, one strike and then he is gone..
And when all appears quiet again and the night, at the end of the day, returns, there he is… again.
One more look, another strike, and the tears that come with him, and then just like that he is gone…
And so the merry goes round and round. One moment there and then the next.
He likes it that way. Never loses his grip. He is the friend that no one wants. The companion of so many who lose themselves to him.
And he doesn’t mind all the bad publicity. He enters our life uninvited and outstays his welcome without a care in the world.
He ravages without prejudice. Young and old. All and everyone is fair game. To him, pain is the elixir upon which he thrives, and there is plenty of it, all year long.
He is both loved and detested. He can destroy but in spite of him, can also help rebuild.
He is like the movement of the moon, a flame that flickers, the gathering storm of a soul that thunders, the cries in the night of a friend in despair.
He is a combination of three words.
A.Broken.Heart.
ps. If you have read my post “Betrayal – In Love One Moment, Out Of His Life The Next!” then you will know that a friend of mine has just experienced a very painful break up. Having had first hand experience in the kind of heart ache that comes after a breakup, I have spent some time these past few days trying to support that friend. It has been very difficult to watch his pain as if it was multidimensional and today, coming back from a visit with him, I jotted down at random some of the things I felt in his presence. It’s not pretty but then again, depression and pain never are!
I am very sorry for your friend. It is very nice from your side that you support him. The friends are real treasures in such situations.
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Dr. Dad Reply:
December 15th, 2011 at 3:17 pm
If what happened to my friend has told me anything, that is how quickly we forget how painful a break up can be. It is good that we forget but my friend is in a state of real depression.
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I used to have a (boy)friend just like this before, and he drove me nuts by “keeping me warm”. To be honest, I am lucky to be strong, finally, after having enough, I told him to go to h*ll. Your friend need a lot of support now. I am sorry to hear about the deep depression.
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If you best friend is truly your best friend she will not be persuaded by your former best friend. You just have to trust in your bff that she will stick with you. I would not get involved in anything between your new bff and former bff this is for you new bff to work on his or her own. But by the sounds of it your new bff has told you what your former bff has said so it sounds like they are not falling for your former bff’s games. Good luck to you and I hope it all works out.
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Dr. Dad Reply:
December 19th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
Well, thank you!
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Breakups are painful. Especially investing into a committed relationship, even more so, a marriage. It is not always easy to find the best method of coping with a breakup, as each person is different.
I am a person that wishes the best for any relationship.
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Dr. Dad Reply:
December 19th, 2011 at 4:59 pm
Thanks Nile. I too choose to believe that in spite of what has happened to my friend, love always wins, even though his experience has affected me.
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The only break up I had was as a young teenager. Puppy love they say. I am so grateful that I have never had to experience the pain of divorce. It can be emotionally ugly, with tempers flying and feelings hurt. It always amazes me how you can “fall in love” and then one day hate someone. I know not all divorces are like this and some do end amicably with partners still being friends. And that’s a really good thing.
My heart goes out to those who do experience the pain of breaking up.
You are an awesome friend to help them through this.
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For me My bad experience with this is to break up with my long lasting partner we have a 7 years but he did something wrong I called that is check mate because he cheat in me and that is my number one hate….
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I hope your situation gets better–we’ve definitely been there before, my ex and I. It’s hard, but it takes time.
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I take from this article the importance of being open, honest, and trustworthy in all of my relationships. Love can be painful, but those three characteristics can minimize the pain.
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