Ok.. I couldn’t resist. Having hammered away about how to catch him and keep him, I thought I’d spend a little time talking about us for a change, us your knights in armor sometime so heavy that we cannot move from under our own pride.
Yes, I am talking about me, your husband, your friend, the man in your life, he who according to legend never says these words: “I love you, woman” … Now let me watch my game!
Three little words and nothing he does or says that shows you how crazy he is about you! Or does it?
Not according to an article I just read.
Address below but it’s in French I have to warn you so.. below in my own words and with little bubbles of my own smiles:
As you know… as we all know, men are not always suited to showing what we feel. Expressing love towards our wife or girlfriend? Please Men just don’t that. So if they don’t, what do you look for in your man to check whether he loves you, loves you madly, loves you not!
1. He moans..
Ok. I can hear my wife raise her eye brows even though she is at work as I am lazing around behind my computer writing silly articles about love. Yes we moan and according to the article, that is a sign of love. Shows you how totally smitten we are with you. Does he ask you if he has put on any weight? Its because he loves you? Complaints about a colleague at work… He loves you. Rather than a moan, the article says it is a sure sign that he considers you completely, values your opinion and knows you will be able to re-assure him!
2. He does chores around the house..
Yes! We do, so don’t faint please? And do you know why a man, we, even do housework? Because of you! Because we love you, want to please you and make you happy!
Don’t you love the French? I don’t know about you but I am feeling very good about myself right now… But there is more! According to the article…
3. He asks for your opinion
A man who asks for advice may seem like an odd thing to imagine, but just bare with the author and ask yourself:
If your man ever asked your opinion about a gift he needed to make to his grand dad, what would it really, really mean? Only one thing of course! Yep… He love you! Madly.
Now if you would only love him in return and stop by the store on your way home to get that gift you have just suggested!
4. He loves holding you in his arms
We all know that with the passing of time, passions tend to diminish, heck at my age, I am lucky if I am able to hold my arms up, but a man who holds you in his arms?
You’ve guessed it… LOVE my dear. And a real MAN!
So look out for those moments of quick embrace in the aisles of your local super market even if they happen just as you reach out towards the top shelf. A hug is hug, whether you call is a cuddle or if you want say it in French: “Un Calin”.
So when you’re with your man, put on your best French accent and say to him: “Fais moi un calin mon cheri!” Come on! Repeat after me: “Fais moi un petit calin mon amour!”
5. He always chooses the perfect gift…
Ok. Not always, and its never the perfect gift, but the title sounded so cool to me, I just could not leave it out!
Besides… You remember that day you marveled about the red dress in the window? Six months ago? And all of a sudden there it is, wrapped up in the sports section of last Sunday’s newspaper, just for you? Well isn’t that the best proof that… he loves you?
6. He introduces you to his family
I know. This can be the quickest way to separation but the fact that he pretends you are going to measure up to his mom, even if his mom thinks you never will, well it’s the proof, isn’t it?
7. He introduces you to his friends
Less dangerous than number 6 and since he more or less had no alternative but to introduce you to his mom, dad, sister, cousin, dog and cat, the fact that he wants to be seen in your company when he is with his friends shows that… he love you!
Now don’t interrupt him when he talks. Just look at him with love, admiration and a look on your eyes that clearly shows them you can’t believe your luck to be with such a man!
8. He watches the same television series than you
You love Desperate Wife and he becomes desperate in between episodes so eager he is to see what happens next so that you and him can talk about it? He adores you!
You watch football, hockey, basketball with him? He loves you more!
9. He listens to you
Imagine that! A man who listens! Now isn’t he a gem? La crème de la crème. The lover or your wildest dreams, your man, the one… who loves you!
10. He tells you he loves you
Don’t hold your breath, it might happen as you fall asleep, or just as you close the door and you wonder if that’s what he’s just told you! But a man who tells his woman he loves her… Well, what a manly man he is!
And that concludes this article! For the original (this one is not a translation, but rather my own interpretation of the overall meaning of the text, please check “10 petites choses qui prouvent qu’il est complètement dingue de vous“)
And remember, I meant everything I wrote, other than what may have offended you, which of course I never meant.
And all together: Je t’aime mon amour!
Steve,
I am thinking about my wife and I as I read this. Completely true!
I clean around the house, not because i care, but care for her. Also, I watch some of the reality shows like American Idol, The Voice, and Project Runway.
Before I met her in a million years I would never watch that.
Andy
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This list made me smile. I’m blessed to have a guy that does most of this (sans French accent LOL!) Where we women will talk to other women about most things bugging us we often forget that men require a pretty deep degree of trust before they will opening talk or “moan” about things affecting them particularly at the risk of criticism from one they love.
Kim
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What a nice post, I can relate to it not because I happen to be french but because I am a woman.
These are little things that are soo big and make a difference in the quality of the relationship.
They need to be done with the heart though and not because the husband or boy friend wants to keep the beloved woman near him out of dependancy.
Itwould be great if these little big things are given also consistently… women will do miracles too for him!
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Hi Stevie
What a wonderful list. It’s such a PLEASURE to read a guy listing the things us girls love to be told, brought to us, done for us and to us! Yes, all of these things are right on. I know that #9 is probably the most important for me. Listening can make or break a relationship. If it’s not there, a guy is not really paying much attention! I am happy to say that my guy does, and makes me feel important ad cared about.
I like #3 as well, (asking my opinion) because I think sometimes it’s very hard for anyone , much less a man, to admit there’s another opinion. Taking your opinion into account means you are important again! Each one of your list makes you feel important, loved and “crazy about you!!”
Great post
Laura Morris
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Dr. Dad Reply:
February 14th, 2012 at 1:23 pm
I am glad you liked it Laura. It was fun writing it!
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My way of telling my girl that I’m into her is trusting her and letting her feel that she is valued. Preparing a dinner sometimes is a sweet thing to do.
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So if he doesn’t moan, buy me gifts or ask my opinion, does that mean he doesn’t love me!! LOL…. What if he forgets my name when he introduces me to his family?? lmao~~ ( that was a long time ago) My man does some of these and must say, he does things that annoy me big time, but I know he loves me… Great article Stevie!! (cute!) I got a good chuckle out of it.. I know some French too!!
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Dr. Dad Reply:
February 24th, 2012 at 8:52 pm
Ahh… I left the business of his family’s interaction with her well out of this one… Unfortunately I have first hand experience of the often times irreparable damages that this can cause a relationship. If I managed to light your day with a little smile, then this article has not been completely wasted! Merci Holly!
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I think the most reliable proof that he is crazy about you is that he introduces you to all of his loved ones, it’s one way to show you that he is seriously into you. Saying “I love you” is not enough, action speaks louder than voice right? It’s fun reading your post.
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